After losing 75kgs one of my biggest fears, like so many others whom have lost a large amount of weight is the dreaded re-gain. It's daunting, feelings of shame and failure arise, loss in self faith, and a whole load of self doubt re-surface.
We've worked so hard on saying bye bye to the old ways through blood sweat and tears, emotional heartache, mental anguish and the constant struggle of breaking old self limited patterns and behaviours. EXHAUSTING, to say the least
Then that moment of realisation arrives
The clothes you wear become a lil snug and the scales have a higher number than what you remember.......... oh god no, please No!
I've faced this reality over the last few weeks, not a big increase, 6kgs, but enough for me to start putting shit on myself again!
Failure, pathetic, aren't you a health and wellness coach??? Haven't you learnt anything??? How can you be giving health advice and so much more blahhh, blahhhh, BLAHHHHHHH!!
Yup, the shit feelings have reappeared, remembering how hard life was, how out of control I felt for so many years, the Isolation and the feelings of like I was never going to pull through, and then the whole Questioning of my abilities as a wellness coach and whole and raw food creator!
Nothing major has change to be honest I still eat really well the majority of the time, just a few things slide, like eating out a little more than usual, not being as prepared in the kitchen and not training as consistently, then add working way to much to the mix and you've got the perfect recipe for the dreaded weight gain. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :(
Then it hits me, this is exactly why you are a coach, it's about reality, the whole human experience, not just the achievements and successes, but also the falls, set backs and lessons re learnt, and what better coach to have then to have one that's lives in the real world, who struggles, who falls, and who's walked the walk, but who also gets back up to kick ass harder and stronger than ever before!!!!!
So I had a great talk to myself, Nat you've got 2 choices, Identify what's going on in your life and take ACTION, re-evaluate what's important to you, and start making changes, bit by bit, the way you lost 75kgs to begin with or Ignore it, pretend there's a miracle cure out there that one day will solve all your problems, until then you can have a pity party for one and do what you used to do and console yourself in packets of tim tams,
The choices are truly that simple, not only for me, but for everyone reading this, your daily actions become your reality, just making the smallest health related lifestyle changes can have the biggest impact on your life and mental wellness!
I'm living proof of that, overcoming debilitating anxiety and depression and losing 75kgs, all began with small liveable and sustainable lifestyle changes! Not some miracle cure, 12 week BS program or fad restrictive diet, but looking within for the answers and taking action!
Do something positive right now for your health, small consistent steps towards the life you desire are far more effective than hating on yourself for set backs and failures, or searching endlessly for that perfect diet or magical pill, remembering always that you are human, and that you're here to learn!
Nothing is ever permanent, so if you want change, start making change xx