So we want this perfect body right! What’s perfect? I’m still trying to figure that out myself. See, this time five years ago I would’ve honestly killed (and I’m not joking) to be a size 10 - 12 I am today and I wouldn’t of thought twice in doing so. Now some days I can look in the mirror and think girllllll there’s still a bit of work to be done here! Ummmm seriously you’ve lost how much weight and you are concerned about a few kilos, even getting to what I thought was my ideal size back then and yet I’m still looking for more perfection.
I guess there’s no harm in re-evaluating goals and wanting to achieve more but when is enough enough? And when do we actually look in the mirror and think we are enough, and how we look right now is enough?
The point I’m trying to make is that your “self image” is what really affects your body image. The way I see myself today, if it’s a good day, I see myself as strong, healthy and a powerful soul and yet on other days when let’s just say I’m having one of those days, I feel like I’m not enough, inadequate and flawed.
So is it really how I look or how I feel that determines my own body image? My body hasn’t changed from that happy day to my down day, but my mind has if I’m feeling happy, I think I look damn fine, if I’m upset or having a down day that will pick out all of the flaws!
The same as if we think that having this perfect body is going to bring us this “happiness” once you have the body you want. There will always be something else you want to change or fix and I know this from experience of reaching my goals and still not finding this so called happiness I thought I’d find in reaching it.
My advice: love your body regardless, and it’s size and for everything it provides for you, accept it the way it is, still honour it and your dreams by providing it with what it needs. Creating an ideal body image is all about acceptance, accepting who you are and your individuality.
Do NOT compare your body, shape or look to others, please don’t do this and even more so do NOT rate it for not being picture perfect; like the ones we see in magazines. It’s toxic and will only promote unrealistic expectations of self.
My body is pretty much covered in scars from my weight gain and loss journey, my body expanded and compensated for years of food abuse it’s truly amazing really and I used to be ashamed of it, now I see them as my battle scars or road maps of my journey, not to be ashamed of but to embrace this amazing journey I’ve been on. I am one tough, strong cookie and I’ve got the scars to prove it!
So love yourself, I mean really love yourself regardless of size or of what you want to look like in the future, love yourself right now bumps and all, honour where you are and honour how your body is looking after you right now. Body image isn’t a destination, it’s an ongoing self image journey so ride those waves baby xx